It was the poet Philip Larkin who wrote of people being pushed to the side of their own lives.
I’ve always taken that to mean that sometimes we allow events, comments, worries and the expectations of others to divert us from the journey we had imagined for ourselves.
Occasionally those diversions become detours. Sometimes they derail us altogether.
I’m happy with my lot. Life has been kind to me in many ways. But recently I’ve found myself wondering what might happen if I simply said “yes” to more opportunities rather than overthinking them first. It’s a mantra I’ve been practising for the last few months, so I thought it might be worth reflecting on what’s changed so far…
Right then, for you cycling fans out there, I’ve booked accommodation with the intention of riding next year’s Mallorca 312. That’s 312 Spanish kilometres, if you hadn’t guessed, through some of the most spectacular scenery and mountain climbs Europe has to offer.
I’ve even been told that Mallorca has climbs that rival some of my own Yorkshire favourites. We’ll see about that.
It’s a huge commitment and one that will require me to increase my training over the coming months and step up my discipline. At my age, nobody accidentally rides 312 kilometres over mountains.
Now, the second “yes” will either surprise you or leave you somewhat nonplussed. Mrs Pardoe was definitely in the latter camp.
After being completely bowled over by the warmth and community spirit of a Yorkshire Christmas last year – think Santa, homemade mince pies, fruit cake, cheese (yes, cheese), and general hearty good cheer – I’ve decided to throw my hat into the ring and appear in a pantomime.
Yes. Panto.
My wife did little more than raise a well-manicured eyebrow before announcing that I had been dramatic for most of our married life, so my apparent thespian tendencies should come as no surprise to anyone.
Friends and family have greeted the news with a mixture of amusement, teasing and predictions that I will inevitably end up in drag.
Whilst I’m still in creative discussions about my exact role (do I need an agent?) I must admit that it’s going to be something completely different.
I’ve presented to large audiences before. I’ve stood on global conference stages in front of hundreds of people. But I’ve never done it in makeup and I’ve never not had the comfort blanket of a PowerPoint slide deck to hide behind.
Which brings me to my challenge for you, dear reader.
What are you saying “yes” to for the remaining six months this year?
What opportunity have you been placing in the “let me think about it” pile for far too long?
What ambition, adventure or experience is quietly waiting while you stand at the side of your own life watching it pass by?
Perhaps it’s time to step onto the stage and move away from that invisible force pushing you to the side of your own life.